Are you happy, I mean really happy? Are you getting the most out of life? Is your full potential being reached?
If it’s time for a change then its time you took control of the steering wheel.
Stuck in a dead end job?
Repeating the same old destructive behaviours?
Is your past holding you back?
Life getting you down?
I truly believe that change is possible, life teaches us that it’s possible. The time changes, the seasons change and the word is changing all the time.
That means you can change too.
I have had many parents say to me “I want to change” yet when I ask them what that change is or suggest to them how they can start to that situation, they become fearful.
We fear change
When things stay relatively the same, we feel more settled.
That does not mean we are happy with these things, it’s just they make us feel safe and comfortable.
Fear prevents us from growing.
We fear trying for that promotion because we may be rejected.
We fear going to a different restaurant as we may not like the food as much.
We fear going to a different holiday destination as we don’t know if we will like it.
We fear trying a different hairdresser because we may not like the finished hair style.
We fear leaving an unhappy relationship, as we may find ourselves alone for the rest of our lives.
And while a routine has benefits, it can also make life stale.
Do not allow your fears to hold you back.
You may be thinking it’s time for a change, but what exactly is it that you want to change?
How can you change something if you don’t know what that “thing” is?
Put yourself under the microscope.
Close your eyes, tune into your inner feelings.
Now find a pen and a sheet of paper and answer the following questions, honestly.
What would you like to change?
- About yourself
- About your career
- About your relationship
- About your home life
- About your health
Now you have some goals.
If there a few changes you wish to make, then prioritise.
Reaching your goals:
- Identify what the problem is
- How easy or difficult will it be?
- How does this problem effect you?
Now you have the solid foundation needed to begin your challenge.
You’re going to make changes.
Time for a change – my own example
I have been unhappy for a long time, I feel I miss out on so many family activities and social occasions because of my anxiety. It was time for a change.
I blamed my struggle with anxiety on my mental health. I was stuck in the mind-set that if I was invited out somewhere I had to say no.
I could not go, my anxiety wouldn’t allow me.
I knew how difficult the challenge of changing this would be. I was ready to start fighting.
I set myself a goal, not to beat my anxiety, but to fight it as much as I could.
I spoke with a mental health professional about how it was affecting my everyday life and he found me an anxiety therapy course, which I will be starting soon.
Never change for someone else, you have to personally want the changes to happen.
You cannot change what you refuse to confront.
“Your life does not get better by chance, it gets better by change.” – Jim Rohn
What is it that you want to change?